Lea cleared up some wreckage today.
She had a warrant for driving with a suspended license. I drove her to the Everett muni cour t this
morning. She plead guilty, got a fine
and a 90-day suspended sentence with 2 years probation. No more warrant.
We then drove out to Granite Falls to see her son. He was staying with her ex-husband and
daughter that have yet to talk with Lea.
We went out to an early lunch and chatted. Taking her son back home, Lea had hoped to
say “hi” to her daughter. Her daughter works
a swing shift and was not available due to sleeping or to not having any part
of talking with Lea.
That was some crazy wreckage.
Lea’s addiction got the best of her and she just walked out of the house
on her hubby, the kids and her career for a life in the black-market mix of
heroin addiction. Most of us blow up our
relationships so we can blame it on others for “not understanding”. Lea just left.
It was sad to see a home without a wife, kids grown up without a mom, and
a mom missing out on watching her kids grow up and not being part of the
family. I have seen many messed-up
families and relationships due to addiction.
This one was expressively painful for the way her addiction had surgical
removed her from her family leaving a permanent mark that will never go away. As long as Lea stays sober, more healing will
progress. She has seen her son three
times in the last two months. That is a
lot of progress.
Addiction tears tragic holes in the fabric of our lives. Sobriety and recovery stop the damage and mitigate
these wounds. It takes miracles of
healing to get past the guilt, shame and pain.
I am grateful that Lea is working her way through cleaning up the
wreckage of her past. Having an arrest
warrant voided is huge progress. Seeing
her son is a good start on that family afterwards. Her work and progress solidify the foundation
of our relationship.
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